Distracted Parenting

If you have been to the playground, you know “that kid.” He is the one running around wild and crazy while his parent is on the cell phone or talking to the mommy group completely oblivious. Or, perhaps at times, you have been “that parent.”

I know there have been times that I get lost in conversation with a friend, only to find out that my son decided stick fighting with a baby would be a good idea. Even at home, I hear shouts of “play with me” or “look at me, Mommy.”

Unintentional childhood injuries are up 10% from 2007 to 2012 according to the Center for Disease Control (CDC). Most likely, this increase is due to the increased disengagement of parents due to cell phone usage.

However, distracted parenting has been around long before the days of media. We can get engrossed in even seemingly good things, such as reading books, crocheting a blanket, talking to a friend, filling out paperwork at the doctor’s office, or playing with another child.

It is important to note that we cannot always give our children our full attention. But, we do need to be intentional with our time with our kids. Here are a few strategies to employ with your use of media.

Be a Role Model

Kids learn from us. Model the media behavior that you would like to see in your child. Choose high-quality content and set limits on your use of media. By having these boundaries in place, you will be more engaged with your child and both of you will have less “screen time.”

Use Media Together

Engage in media usage with your kids. Pick out a good family film and discuss the central themes and characters afterwards. Play a game with your child and discuss the strategy behind it. Check out the “Families can talk about…” section on Common Sense Media for conversation ideas.

Put Down the Phone

Play with your kids without a screen! Go outside and kick or throw a ball around. Throw on some music and have a dance party. Pull out a board game. Read a book to your child. The most important thing you can do for your kids is to spend some quality time with them every day.

Let Them Talk and LISTEN

Give each of your children a few special minutes each day to talk one-on-one with you. This can be over breakfast, before bedtime, or any other moment during the day. I like to lay with the Champ on the floor and talk about his day while looking up at the ceiling. Most of the time, our talks are about “nothing much,” but they are important to his self-confidence.

Free Printable: Number Concept Matching Cards

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Count EVERYTHING! That is one of my favorite pieces of advice to give to moms of young children.

Print these number concept cards on card stock. Cut out each individual square. Then they can be used in multiple ways:

Number Recognition: Have your child identify the numbers 1-20.

Number Counting: Have your child count the number of objects on the card.

Number Concepts: Have your child match the number to the card with the matching number of objects.

Number Order: Have your child arrange the numbers (or objects) in order from 1-20.

Download my Free Number Concept Match cards.

Apps For Young Children

Choosing high quality entertainment media is difficult. Just because something is called educational does not mean that it is high-quality. Look for apps and games that are not passive in nature. You can make the experience more meaningful by playing with your child and engaging them in conversation before, during, and after. I love Common Sense Media reviews. Check out the “Families can talk about…” sections that give suggestions to make the most of media time.

Here are a few places to start when looking for good apps for your younger children.

Bible for Kids

Bible for Kids is a fun and interactive storybook Bible for children. The app allows you to download over 40 Bible stories for free. The app reads the story out loud to your child and then allows them to interact with illustrations, search for hidden objects, and answer questions about the story. Available on iTunesAmazon, and Google Play Store.

Starfall.com

Starfall.com is a free site dedicated to young students that are both learning how to use the computer and learning to read. The site has poor graphics; however, it is very interactive. Starfall also offers a free app called Starfall ABCs. Available on iTunes, Amazon, and Google Play Store.

My PlayHome

My PlayHome is an interactive roleplaying game that allows your child to create a dollhouse family and interact with them. As your child plays the game, talk to him as he explores the dollhouse. Make connections between situations in the game and real world scenarios. Available on iTunes, Amazon, and Google Play Store.

This is My Story
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This is My Story allows children to use simple sight words to fill in the blanks and create basic stories such as “The cat played with the kite.” The app then reads finished stories out loud. After you get the hang of playing the app, teach your child to make up their own silly stories in real life! Available on iTunes.

The Very Hungry Caterpillar & Friends- First Words
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We love Eric Carle at our house and The Very Hungry Caterpillar & Friends-First Words contains many of his illustrations. The app introduces common words in five different languages. Available on iTunes.

Dr. Panda’s Toy Cars

Dr. Panda’s Toy Cars is set up like a car play mat. Kids can play different cars and act out different community helper roles as they play in the town. Play the game with your child and talk to him about different vehicles and jobs in your community. Available on iTunes, Amazon, and Google Play Store.

Drive About: Number Neighborhood
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Drive About: Number Neighborhood is a set of nine games that feature math skills for preschool students. After playing the game, talk to your children about numbers and shapes in the real world. Available on iTunes.

Free Printable: Word Cards

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Clothes pins are a great tool for Preschool and Kindergarten!

This activity works great for developing letter recognition, word recognition, and fine motor skills.

Simply print off these word cards on card stock (you can even print them double sided to save paper). Cut out the cards and laminate. Write letters on clothes pins.

Then have your child match the clothes pins to the letters by pinning them onto the card.

To save on clothes pins, you may only want to have enough for your child to pin on one card at a time. To do this, write out the entire alphabet except Q and U. Duplicate O, G, Y, and L because they appear twice on the same card. This method calls for 28 clothes pins.

If you would like for your child to put clothes pins on every card at the same time, write the following letters: A (10), B (1), C(2), D (1), E (7), F (1), G (5), H (1), I (4) J (1), K (1), L (4), M (1), N (8), O (13), P (2), R (6), S (2), T (6), V (1), W (3), X (1), Y (4), and Z (1). This method calls for 86 clothes pins.

Download my Free Word Card Game!

The Blessing Calendar

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It is so AMAZING to see where God is working! However, we are a forgetful people and tend to forget God’s miracles! This has been a problem for men since “the Israelites did not remember the LORD their God who had delivered them from the power of the enemies around them.” Judges 8:34

However we have been told to always remember God and to tell our children and grandchildren about His goodness and faithfulness.

“Only give heed to yourself and keep your soul diligently, so that you do not forget the things which your eyes have seen and they do not depart from your heart all the days of your life; but make them known to your sons and your grandsons.” Deuteronomy 4:9

Our family started a Blessing Calendar this year. We simply got a calendar and write things on it AFTER they happen.

Our calendar includes mundane things that normally go on the calendar, such as doctors appointments and birthdays. But it also includes things that happened to us, such as days we were sick, births, and family game night.

At the top of the calendar we write out longer messages that demonstrate God moving in our lives and speaking to us.

Our hope is that in the future we can pull out old calendars and be able to remember how God has worked in our lives in the past!

*Please note that for the privacy of our family members and friends we pray for, all names and events listed on this calendar are completely fictional! Any resemblance to real world people and events is completely coincidental.

Which Grocery Store is the Cheapest?

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I am a math nerd! I sing the quadratic formula to my kids as a lullaby, we watch Donald in Mathmagicland about once per week, and I love creating spreadsheets for everything.

So, perhaps my favorite aspect of couponing is creating a price comparison sheet. Here is my step-by-step process and the results of comparing prices at four stores!

Creating a Price Comparison Sheet

The first step in creating a price comparison sheet is selecting items that you want to compare. I like to pick 20-30 items that you commonly purchase from various categories (household items, dry goods, produce, meat, frozen, and dairy).

Once you have your list of items, go to each store that you usually shop at and write down the quantity and price of each item on your list. If you plan on using this spreadsheet as a guide weekly, try to record the price of the item when it is not on sale. This way, when you find an ad or coupon for $.50 off, you can look at your spreadsheet and calculate the price.

I recorded the sale price because it helps me get an overall picture of the cost at each store since some of the stores I was comparing have “everyday low prices” and others run frequent sales.

Once you get home, it’s time to create a spreadsheet!

It is important that you are comparing similar sizes. And since this is not always possible, I like to calculate price per unit. For example, 96 diapers at store one cost $18.99, 108 at store two cost $19.77, and 168 at store three cost $34.98. The cost per diaper is $.20, $.18, and $.21 at each store respectively.

If you are a math nerd like me, you may want to go a step further and find the “overall value.” To find the overall value, we must multiply the cost per unit by a standard quantity. If we choose a standard quantity of 96 diapers then the “cost” at each store is $18.99, $17.57, and $19.99.

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Using a Price Comparison Sheet

Comparing price per unit for each item allows you to see what type of items are best to buy at each store. If one store is best for dry goods, household items, and frozen you can shop there one time per month (or every few months if you are good at planning and have the storage space). Then you can shop at the best store for produce, meat and dairy products weekly.

When I was a super-couponer, I would take my price comparison sheet to the store weekly and make any updates necessary.  Now I only update about once per year.

It is also important to note that price is not the only factor to consider. Store convenience, product selection, and product quality are all important to me. Others factors you may consider when choosing a grocery store are customer service, carry out service, payment types accepted, ability to use coupons, membership fees (such as a Sam’s Membership), and online ordering.PriceComparison2

My Findings

Based on a list of twenty five items at four stores (Kroger, Walmart, Sam’s, and Aldi), I discovered that every store is cheaper on at least one item. I discovered that, overall, Aldi is the best to shop at! However, their meat department was higher than every other store.

I purchase dairy and produce on a weekly basis. Aldi and Walmart were within twenty cents of one another in these two areas, so I would probably choose Aldi over Walmart simply due to the fact that they seem to have better quality produce.

I purchase frozen foods, meat, dry goods, and household items as needed on a monthly basis. So, I can make one trip to Sam’s and/or Walmart each month to get the items that are cheapest there.

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*This post was not intended to tell you which store will be cheapest for your family. It was merely showing you how to choose the store that will be cheapest for your family. Your family may eat totally different foods than mine, so please compare items that are on your typical grocery list. Also, item prices may vary among locations.

Screen Time and the Young Child

According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, kids take in an average of SEVEN hours of media time a day!

At the same time, the AAP advises that children and teens should only engage in one to two hours of “high-quality content” entertainment media per day. Furthermore, children under two should not engage in television or other forms of entertainment media at all because of their rapidly developing brain.

These guidelines come from scientific research, showing that “excessive media use can lead to attention problems, school difficulties, sleep and eating disorders, and obesity. In addition, the Internet and cell phones can provide platforms for illicit and risky behaviors.”

We are living in a world where young children are getting their own smartphones, restaurants are placing gaming devices on tables, and daycare centers and schools use television as a part of routine instructional time. Avoiding entertainment media is impossible, and also not recommended. Instead, parents should establish clear boundaries on screen time for their children.

Setting time limits on media usage is a great place to start; however, quality is just as critical as quantity when it comes to screen time.  So, what is “high-quality?” A “high-quality” form of entertainment media emulates real-world social interactions, introduces educational concepts, and/or requires active participation on the part of the viewer.

Beware of some so-called educational games that are not considered “high-quality” because they are passive in nature and do not involve any engagement on your child’s part.  Some “non-educational” games, such as role playing games, encourage creativity and may be preferable to mindless entertainment such as Candy Crush. Facetime with Grandma can be considered quality media time because it emulates a real world social interaction.

This is not to say that the occasional mind numbing game should not be allowed. Just as you should try to get your child to choose healthier food options, you should try to get your child to choose higher quality entertainment when possible.

When it comes to choosing appropriate media, I ADORE Common Sense Media reviews. Their movie reviews analyze content based on positive messages, positive role models, violence, sex, language, consumerism, and drinking, drugs & smoking. They review app content based on ease of play, violence & scariness, sexy stuff, language, consumerism, and drinking, drugs, & smoking. Each category is rated on a scale of 1 to 5 and includes an in depth analysis of each category. There is even a section called “Families can talk about…” for each review that allows parents to make the most of media time.

When engaging in media with your child, make sure to have a dialogue with them about the media. Talk about central themes, characters, and scenarios from movies and television shows. Discuss strategies and educational content from apps and games. By taking an active part in your child’s media usage, you are extending the educational value of their screen time.

Free Printable: Number Concept Cards

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Number skills can be learned by children as young as two! Start by teaching the numbers 1-3 and build up to twenty by the time your child completes 4 year old Kindergarten.

Print these number concept cards double sided on card stock. Cut out each individual card. Then they can be used in multiple ways:

Number Recognition: Have your child identify the numbers.

Number Counting: Have your child count the number of objects on the card.

Number Order: Have your child arrange the numbers (or objects) in order.

Download my Free Number Concept Cards.

Scripture Cards

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I love 3×5 index cards because they have so many uses!

One of their best uses is making Scripture Flash Cards.

Simply write a verse on one side and the reference for that verse on the opposite side. When you are writing out the verse, take a moment to determine what the key words are and color code them in a way that makes sense to you.

For example, I on one side I write “So God created man in His own image; He created him in the image of God; He created them male and female.” On the other side I write “Genesis 1:27.”

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My color coding on this card is blue for the word “male,” pink for the word “female,” and purple for the five references to God.

I can then punch a hole in the top right corner of my cards and attach them to a binder ring to keep them together.

This little “book” of cards will fit perfectly in my purse, diaper bag, or car console for scripture on the go.

Saving Money When Dining Out

Wednesday, I discussed how to avoid the temptation to dine out! But, every once in a while, we will go ahead and give into that temptation. For our family, that amounts to one time per week.

Here is how our family saves money eating out!

Coupons

Check out the circulars that come in the mail or local newspaper for coupons to your favorite restaurants. Many grocery stores print coupons on the back of their receipts. If you cannot find one for your favorite place to eat, do a quick google search of “(Name of restaurant) printable coupons” or look at the restaurant’s website to see if you can sign up for coupons. I like to keep a separate email address just for coupons and sign-ups.

Family Nights

A lot of restaurants have nights where kids eat free or at a discount. Some even extend a discount to adults. Simply do a quick google search of “Kids Eat Free (Insert name of your city).”

Blue Coast Burrito has $2 kid’s meals and a $6 burrito combo on Tuesday nights. Our entire family can eat for 2/3 of the normal price on that night. Select Chick-fil-a’s offer free kids meals and activities on their family nights. Logan’s Roadhouse offers two full adult meals for $15.99 Monday-Wednesday and some locations offer a discount on kid’s meals as well.

Rewards Clubs

If you have a few favorite restaurants, inquire about any reward’s clubs. Many offer reward’s programs that will give you a discount after a certain number of purchases. A lot of these clubs are now through phone apps, but some are still email clubs or in-store cards.

Gift Cards

Around the holidays, many restaurants offer incentives to purchase gift cards (such as “buy $20 get $5). If you have a favorite restaurant and can spend the cash up front, this is a great way to save money. You can even combine a gift card with other coupons and rewards programs!

Warehouse stores also offer bulk gift card packages year round. For instance, Sam’s Club offers $100 of O’Charley’s gift cards for $80. O’Charley’s also frequently offers 20% off coupons. If you use the gift cards from Sam’s and a coupon each time you go, you will end up with $125 worth of food for $80. That is a 36% savings!

Split an Entrée

Portion sizes at many restaurants are so large that you can easily split one. If at all possible, split with someone else in your party or eat half at the restaurant and ask for a to-go box. In many cases, you can find an appetizer or soup that will serve as an entrée for a fraction of the cost.

Downgrade

Look for cheaper restaurants when you do choose to dine out. Even fast food can be acceptable if your reasons for dining out include convenience, spending time with your family, or avoiding cooking and cleaning. Sometimes we eat at home and go out for dessert afterwards for a lower cost alternative on family night.

Don’t Be THAT Guy!

While it is great to save money while eating out, make sure that you do not do so at the expense of your waiter or waitress. It may seem like an easy way to save money is to cut back on a tip because it is a cost within your control. But, PLEASE, leave a decent tip! I like to tip based on what the total would have been pre-coupon or gift card.

Do you have any other great ways to save money while eating out?